In Absentia

I must apologize to those who follow this blog for the lack of follow-through for the turning straight post. The continuation of my coming-to-terms story has been kept in draft for some time due to very welcome development in Lukayo's Life which I won't put much detail into but summarize as follows:

• New job in a company where I will build a career in and has taken a lot of my time in a week (36% of my week);
  
• A partner who I love (against I fell in love with, 'cause falling in love may be a prelude to falling out of love) and am thankful for being really patient and understanding despite my schedule;
• Financial strain which has placed me into perspective on what I really need against what I want;
• Slowing down my rockstar lifestyle, planning for years to come, and settling down.

I promise to release my dues once I've gotten other things (excel sheets for work) out of the way. Thanks to everyone who follow my blog - Godspeed!

Commercial Muna - Take Your Positions

Readers! This is a resurrected post from my old blog... adding a twist to the end...

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RT: Top. Bottom. Versa. Tuod Tops. Passive Bottoms. Versa Daw. Power Tops. Power Bottoms. Versa for Real. Which one are you? 8:51 AM Jun 19th from web

For some wicked reason, this list came to my mind a few weeks back. A mental note of the six permutations of top, bottom, versa, mixed with good and bad - saved online as a tweet.

• Tuod Top ang tawag sa mga tipong maghuhubad sa gilid ng kama, pagkatapos ay hihilata na lang sa kanilang likuran. Pangkaraniwan, inilalagay pa nila ang kanilang dalawang kamay sa likod ng ulo bilang senyales sa katalik na bahala ka nang magtrabaho.
• Passive Bottom naman tang tawag sa mga tipong maghuhubad sa gilid ng kama, pagkatapos ay hihilata na lang sa kanilang likuran at bubukaka. Tulad ng mga tuod top, huwag kang mag-expect ng romansa mula sa mga ito sa kadahilanang nagpapaanak lamang ang mga ito sa kanilang pagaakalang may mga matres sila.
• Versa Daw ang tawag sa mga hindi alam kung ano ba talaga sila sa kama. Paminsan minsan nasa ibabaw, minsan sa ilalim. Ang kaibahan lang sa totoong versa ay hindi nila kayang gampanan ang bawat posisyon. Marunong mangromansa ang mga versa daw at sa paglipas ng panahon ay maaaring maging tunay na versa.
• Power Top naman ang tawag sa mga kantuterong marunong gumamit sa kanilang mga sandata. Pangkaraniwang nagsisimula sa long and gentle strokes papunta sa kantot marinong short and sharp strokes. Hindi lahat ng power top ay rumoromansa, sumususo, brumobrotsa, at sumisisid (rimming). Bonus na lang iyon if ever!
  
• Power Bottoms naman ang tawag sa mga kinakantot na marunong mag-muscle control at saluhin ang kahit na gaano kalaking titi. Mayroon pa sa kanilang kayang sumalo higit sa isa. Kaya ng isang power bottom na mawalan ng ulirat ang kanyang partner sa kama. Marami sa mga power bottom ang sumususo at kung anu-ano pa.
• Versa for real ang tawag sa mga marunong mambutas at nabubutasan sa kama. Tingin ko, malupit na sex mate ang isang versa for real lalu na't kung open-minded at may pagkawild ang mga ito. Ang tanging dala ng mga versa ay kanilang flexibility at openness sa pagpapaligaya ng kapwa.

The above doesn't intend to be prescriptive of the six permutations that came to mind. Some commenters might complain about boxing up certain types... but this is just for fun mind you. So... out of the six? Which one are you? ;-)

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Need your thoughts on roles in bed and how this affects the dynamics of a relationship. Do TOP2TOP relationships work? Do BOT2BOT relationships work? From your own experience, how important is sexual role compatibility in making or breaking a relationship?

Hope to hear from you guys soon...

a1 Prologue: Turning Straight

Is it just me or are there more gays or people-like-us nowadays? In the malls, one can observe more and more guy/guy or girl/girl couples - sharing a meal, shopping together, or a date at the movies. Buff boys in the gym hook up with equally buff boys, leaving out the women and matrona clientele. Online, you now see more choices of hook-ups - from twinks to bodybuilders, ages May to December, with different fetishes.

Methinks that this phenomenon results from the younger generation being more open with their sexuality (which osmosed to the older generation). Rewind to freshman year when gays/PLUs in my campus was limited to the stereotype flam-effeminate. They were the standard-bearers of what a gay man was. Fast-forward to senior and super-senior year - you'd have straight-looking guys holding hands, lipstick lesbians publicly displaying affection, and same-sex couples exchanging sweet nothings in the library.

I was caught in the cusp when the tides were changing. Being part of the 'older generation', I find myself in the closet but with a full-view of things that are happening outside. And I guess this would be a great vantage point which influenced my decision to turn straight into the PLU world...

Next post: On Coming In and Out