Breaking Down Love

10.03.2009 | |

Bakit ba mahilig gawing kumplikado ng mga tao ang LOVE na yan?

Simple lang naman. Gusto mo, mahal mo, eh di go! Magkabayag ka na sabihin sa kanya yun... huwag ka gagamit ng pagpapahiwatig at pahapyaw-hapyaw dahil hindi naman likas na manghuhula ang mga tao.

Kung ayaw sa iyo eh di huwag pilitin ang sarili. Magkabayag ka na piliting tanggapin ang pangyayari at mag-laan ng oras para maghilom at magmove-on. Bakit? Siya lang ba tanging lalaki na magpapatibok sa puso mo at magpapakislot sa puson mo? Buksan ang mata at marami pang iba diyan.

Kung may gusto din sa iyo at mahal ka din, eh di go! As long as kaya mong saluhin at pangatawanan yung relasyon ninyong dalawa. Umiwas na sa paghanap ng iba o paghagilap sa nakaraang tapos na. So what kung higit ang pagmamahal nung isa sa isa? Bottomline naman eh mahal ninyo ang isa't isa at hindi ang iba iba. Sapat na dapat yun para ituloy ninyo ang inyong pangroromansa.

Kung sa isang banda ay magising ka isang umaga at alam mong wala na talaga, huwag nang sayangin ang panahon nung isa. Magkabayag kang sabihing wala na talaga at huwag nang umasa pa. Masakit man sa isa, gawin ito para sa ikabubuti niya. Pakawalan habang maaga pa.

Kung sa isang banda ay nagigising ka sa alaala ng nakaraan at parating bumabagabag ito sa iyo, eh gawan mo ng paraan yan para makapagmove-on ka na talaga. Pilit itatak sa utak na never ka naman na talaga makakakilala ng taong katulad niya dahil isa lang talaga siya (unless na may kambal siya - joke onli!). Pilit lunukin lahat ng pait na meron ka sa kanya para ma-i-ebak mo na lang yan isang araw. Pilit panghawakan ang mga panahong masasaya pero huwag gawin itong batayan para sa mga posibleng masasayang araw na kapiling na ng bagong darating. Buksan ang mata, wala ka na sa piling niya at maging fair ka sa taong kinakasama mo ngayon.

Kung sa isang banda ay nagising ka sa isang umagang ma-realize na mahal mo pa din talaga ang nakaraan miski naloko mo na ang sariling mong nakapagmove-on ka na, eh dalawang bagay lang naman ang pwede mong gawin talaga. Una, magpakatotoo ka't sabihin sa kanya ang tunay na nararamdaman. Kung may tingin pa siya sa iyo eh di good, eh kung wala talaga eh magmove-on ka na talaga! Pangalawa, manahimik ka na lang diyan at magmove-on ka na talaga - kawawa ka naman kung buong mundo tuloy-tuloy sa pag-ikot samantalang ikaw ay naiwang nakatali sa nakaraang lumipas na. Mas lalong nakakalungkot kung yung nakaraan mo'y tuloy-tuloy na sa kanyang pag-ariba.

Kung mangangarir ka lang naman, sabihin na sa simula pa lang na kantutan lang naman ang hanap mo. Tulad ng sabi ko sa nakaraang post ko, sa ganito mas madaling kumaripas patungo sa fire exit kung hindi mo na talaga kaya ang init. Kung isang araw eh ma-realize mo na mahal mo na pala siya pero hindi ka sineseryoso eh magkabayag ka nang sabihin sa kanya na nag-iba ang pagtingin mo. Kung mahal ka din niya eh di go, kung mukha ka lang tite sa kanya eh di tuloy na lang ang kantutan.

Sa pag-ibig na iyan, malaki ang posibilidad na may masaktan talaga. Pero eh kung ganun naman talaga... basta, maghanda ka na lang lagi sa tinatawag nilang Karma kung may masasaktan kang iba.

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Bato-bato sa langit, ang tamaan huwag magagalit. Sabi nga ng Sprite, magpakatotoo ka!

30 comments:

Herbs D. said...

sana ganun lang talaga kadali ang pag-ibig. di eh. hindi siya parang math equation na napakarami ang pwedeng solution. hindi mo rin siya pwede masagutan ng isang upuan lamang. minsan, binabalik-balikan mo. minsan, iniiwan mo nalang.

Ms. Minchin said...

Can I serve scones with the afternoon charantiya tea?

Hahahhahahaha

Ang tanong ni Ms. Minchin e, na-implement ba ang mga realizations na yan? ;)

I Am Lukayo said...

@Herbs D.
I guess it's really a matter of perspective. Love can be simple or complex depending on the person looking at it.

@Ms. Minchin
Currently in praxis... i have kwento to you next time we catch up in person!

Bloiggster said...

ANG TARUSH! yun lang ang masasabi ko! :)

engel said...

sa pag-ibig, madaling sabihin pero mahirap gawin. =)

<*period*> said...

ouch, pero tama ka..gawa po ako ng link, okay lang ba? may i-popost kasi sana ako, at sana mabasa nung tao yung post mo..

ingat parati

Mugen said...

Utol... iniisip ko kung kelan yung huling beses na nagmahal talaga ako... yung hindi na-infatuate lang.

Parang sobrang tagal na yata.

Anonymous said...

love ba kamo?

che!

Aris said...

masokista yata talaga ang tao kaya gustung-gusto na kino-complicate at hinahaluan ng drama ang pag-ibig. mas masarap yata kasi yung medyo nasasaktan. :)

joelmcvie said...

Bato-bato sa langit, ang matamaan ay... KILALA KO! Bwhahahaha!

period said...

bato bato sa langit, ang tamaan at magreact, sa mata ng langit at mata ng tao, guilty!ahihihihi

red the mod said...

I wish things are as simple as you said. But often we find ourselves caught up in self-imposed confusion, with a mess only we can disentangle. Seeking validation in the eyes of the disinterested or whose gaze seeks another. Finding solace in the few moments stolen only to be briefly close to someone, knowing in full that the time is borrowed, and you will recede into oblivion once he has taken what was promised that night.

The fallen will walk in the hopes of finding new faith in the heart, another chance to partake in the crazy elation that ardor affords us. Nothing is permanent, and it is this impermanence that makes the search interesting, and for those who have been lucky enough to find their other half, even more rewarding.

To the few, such as myself, that have been banished my destiny to become the perennial friend, whose steady shoulder is always open for the teary-eyed, arms welcoming the weary soul, and words comforting the wounded romantic, I seek only the chance that the succeeding sunrise arrives with my lingering hope still intact. For that special someone to finally find me.

Amidst the barren wasteland of my tired spirit, of a half-broken heart yet to be allowed expression. A chance to share devotion beyond commitment, and care beyond attraction.

Salamat sa post na ito, Lukayo. Ang katotohanan, madalas nga naman, ay walang sing-pait.

wanderingcommuter said...

madalas pinapakomplikado para mas challenging at mas mataas ang value... therefore, ang pag ibig ay parang ibay's silver craft. hahahaha

I Am Lukayo said...

Guys, thank you for all of your comments!

@Bloiggster: Sensya ka na seez, ganyan naman talaga ako ever since. Trying hard to be as taklesa and truthful as he can be. What-you-see-is-what-you-get.

@engel: Tama ka. Lalu na kung nalunod ka na sa mga emosyon. Kaya nararapat na isulat ito bilang paalala! It will never hurt for us to keep on trying and practice this!

@period: Go go, link lang! Actually, hindi kailangan mag-react para maging guilty. LOLs

@Utolski: Hurmmm... maganda yan para kung naramdaman mo na uli, parang kasing tamis ng unang halik! CHOZ!

@john stanley: Hindi ka bitter, HINDE! LOLs

@aris: Ano pa kaya ang ibang masakit pero masarap? Hurmmm... pagtatattoo! Ayun. (Dumi ng utak ng ibang tao... hihihi!)

@joelmcvie: Itago natin siya sa pangalang bekbek. LOLs

@red the mod: Thanks for your comment! Medyo nawalan ako ng hininga dun (joke only).

Comments per paragraph:

1) That's why it's important to lay down the ground rules before one engages in a 'lay'. In this way, things won't get complicated and that expectations are managed (i.e. ONS lang kung ONS, sex lang kung sex).

2) I've resigned from the fact of looking for
my better/bitter half. Being half presupposes that we, by ourselves, don't have the capacity to make ourselves whole - which I believe isn't true.

3) Nakakarelate ako sa 'yo. Dun sa mga gusto ko, either taken sila at ang spiel nila is I hope I could be really good friends with you. Masarap daw kasi akong maging kaibigan. (Cue na to para isaksak ang patalim sa tiyan).

4) I advise you to make yourself whole instead of looking for someone who'll make you whole. In the process, magugulat ka na lang na may nilalang na katabi mo, at minamahal ka sa iyong kabuuan. =)

YEAH, the TRUTH usually hurts. But it's through suffering that we become humbled (thanks to utol for this) and grow as a person.

@wanderingcommuter: Ibay's! Alam ko yan! Hihihi... susko, ang daming masokista sa mundo.

bampiraako said...

I love the title. kadalasan kasi love breaks us down. pero tingin ko, tapos ka na dun at ang tapang mo nang magpakatotoo!

Dabo said...

gago! kamusta ka na? lol =) ingat

♥ ruby ♥ said...

Love lang ng love. You might experience painful endings but you should always remember the happiest moments when the two of you were together. :D

red the mod said...

Nawalan din ako ng hininga dun. Nag-nebulize tuloy ako hehe. Pasensiya ka sinisipag ako, tawag ata dito literary diarrhea .

In answer to your comments per number:

1) I didn’t mean ONS when I mentioned the passing night. What I meant is it’s a cycle of days and nights when it comes to love. Sometimes you shine with the right person, sometimes you recede when fate is unfavorable to your longings. I’ve had my own share of wanton frolics before, during my younger days, when my naivety afforded a false sense of confidence. When I had the guts (or balls) to trivialize my heart for the calling of my loins.

2) I too agree with that. One can only truly share himself or herself with someone under the presumption of being whole on his own. Only by being complete yourself can you truly share your being with someone. And there is a difference between damaged and broken. I’d like to think I’m just damaged. But my scars I wear with the pride of a soldier, whose battle-worn stories speak of the experience endured. A wisdom not gained by chronology but by the lessons destiny has allowed.

3) I should know about that. I’ve heard that line so much I’m starting to wonder if there’s a conspiracy against me hehe. But I don’t digress. Hope, though faint, is something I hold on to despite the grimness of reality. Existentially speaking we are only mirrors of what the universe prescribes. By fully surrendering to a higher wisdom, we allow ourselves to be instruments of fate’s unfathomable workings. Whether or not it concludes in a relationship kindled, or a friendship gained.

4) Serendipity has many names, and means. And I believe in the eventuality that the one for me will find the way despite the odds. It is not bitterness that precedes my days, but a silent hope that there’s a sunrise to look forward to after every frigid night’s embrace. Thanks for the advice, and believe me, finding one’s whole is something we all struggle with on a daily basis. Sometimes in the little things we deal with as we go on with our cycles, sometimes in contemplation for issues major enough to requisite an introspect.

Suffering is the sacrifice we endure as beings of emotion. For only in pain’s wake are we made capable of selfless affection. Our humanity is our shield that affords our hearts to grow. Without this, no lessons will ever be learned, and no true ardor ever be found. Life is good. Smile.

Anonymous said...

uu nga, napakacomplicated ng love, kahit na sino nabobobo sa love, eventhough you thought you had it all figured out, the next thing you know, something went wrong. hahaha. masakit sa ulo at sa puso ang love pero pag bago at nasa stage pa lang ng getting to know each other, pag nageexplore pa lang kayo into it, sobrang sarap ng feeling. hehehe. i guess you could say that it's a gamble and like any other game, you either win or lose.

at tinablan ako sa post na to, sobra. ;)

A.Dimaano said...

a very honest post. bilib ako sa lakas ng loob mo na harapin ang facts ng pag-ibig. bravo to you! =)

wanderingcommuter said...

hihihi... pero sana kasing sipag ako ni mod mag comment... grabe! elibs ako!

Der Führer said...

Your Laughter

Take bread away from me, if you wish,
take air away, but
do not take from me your laughter.

Do not take away the rose,
the lance flower that you pluck,
the water that suddenly
bursts forth in joy,
the sudden wave
of silver born in you.

My struggle is harsh and I come back
with eyes tired
at times from having seen
the unchanging earth,
but when your laughter enters
it rises to the sky seeking me
and it opens for me all
the doors of life.

My love, in the darkest
hour your laughter
opens, and if suddenly
you see my blood staining
the stones of the street,
laugh, because your laughter
will be for my hands
like a fresh sword.

Next to the sea in the autumn,
your laughter must raise
its foamy cascade,
and in the spring, love,
I want your laughter like
the flower I was waiting for,
the blue flower, the rose
of my echoing country.

Laugh at the night,
at the day, at the moon,
laugh at the twisted
streets of the island,
laugh at this clumsy
boy who loves you,
but when I open
my eyes and close them,
when my steps go,
when my steps return,
deny me bread, air,
light, spring,
but never your laughter
for I would die.

Pablo Neruda

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Sana`y marinig kong muli ang iyong tawang tila batingaw na umaalingawngaw at gumigising sa pusong mapanglaw..

POPOY said...

Nice entry! Genuine Straight to the point ang tapang!... nakakarelate ako hehehe... pero as far as i know sa LOVE kasi TRIAL n ERROR lang yan COMPLICATED pero may MASARAP hehehe... if nag work Good for you and if its not Good for you narin ganun lang un atlist you have experience to give love and to be love... and i agree sau kaibigan LUKAYO na dapat MAKABAYAG ka to move on if di nag work...

closet case said...

ang bottomline. bayag at bayag lamang ang kailangan pagmahal. :)

I Am Lukayo said...

@bampiraako: Tuloy pa din ang ikot ng mundo. One needs to keep on walking! Keep on loving!

@dabo: Oks naman ako! Ikaw ang kamusta na? Hehehe... tagal ka na di nagparamdam.

@ruby: Hindi ko alam kung paano gawin yung hearts! LOLs. Buti ka pa, positive ka sees... pero pakisampal yung recent date mo (or kung cute siya, pakilala mo sa akin, i-convert ko ang hitad).

@red the mod: Existentially speaking we are only mirrors of what the universe prescribes. By fully surrendering to a higher wisdom, we allow ourselves to be instruments of fate’s unfathomable workings. Whether or not it concludes in a relationship kindled, or a friendship gained.

I love the imagery of mirrors <3.

@Maxxie: Gamble or game, higher risk higher returns. LOLs You just have to have balls of steel.

@Mr. Scheez: Thanks thanks! Hindi malakas loob ko kundi siraulo lang ako. Hihihi!

@wanderingcommuter: APIR!

@Der Fuhrer: Thanks for the Neruda but above and beyond Neruda, mas naantig ng footnote mo ang damdamin ko. Galing kasi ng use of words, parang batingaw nga talaga. Salamat sa pagdaan at pagcomment!

@POPOY: Hindi ko alam kung saan nanggagaling ang energy ng pagcomment mo pero na-sense ko na meron ka din recent experience.

@closet case: Yup, pero hindi literal na balls. LOLs

Mac Callister said...

ang ganda!brutal-diretso-at-tumpak!

Unknown said...

Well that is good, but it is not like a mathematics subject, got lots of solution.. hai, Love---

James said...

Noted.

Bob Ong isdatchu?!

Boying Opaw said...

"keep it simple..."

-George K.

Anonymous said...

I like this post =)

I think it's still good to feel "whole" when with someone you love. It is true that one should not think of himself as only a fraction of a whole, and that he ought to find completion from everywhere.

But being incomplete should not equate to sadness. Being incomplete (or the feeling of) is fundamentally human, and I acknowledge that perennial empty space that human beings need to constantly fill. So yes, even without finding love, you've just got to continue piling one brick on top of the next without stopping.

I guess what I'm saying is when a person finds someone to love in a place where there's no space or time, all the talk of missing pieces or empty spaces just don't matter anymore.

The whole is bigger than the sum of its parts. LOVE is bigger than the sum of its parts. Love makes a person more than complete.

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